Has anyone else seen the article(s) on “Desk rage spoils workplace for many Americans”? (Reuters, by Ellen Wulfhorst)
I’m digging on this article — Here are a few things I especially like —
“Rudeness, impatience, people being angry — we used to do that kind of stuff at home but at work, we were professional. Now it’s almost becoming trendy to do it at work. – They’re ready for a fight or just really upset…”
That quote says a lot people. It goes back to whole, if you continue to act the way you do at home or anywhere that you think it doesn’t effect you – one day you will cross that line.
Hate breeds hate.
Everyone wants to be the important one. Says so in the article – the Type A personality especially.
Remember back in February when I wrote up about my vindications and then acceptable rudeness?? People, that was a brief type A personality that was vindicated. I did not stand there and blame everyone for my woes. (People have to come to their own conclusions, even if it means you get no “credit” for it.) Own how you are — taking pride use to be something Americans were good at — and it didn’t involve how much money you had squirreled away. Let’s continue…
“People reassure themselves by blaming others and “find comfort in believing their suffering is caused by a callous, incompetent or selfish organization, leader, supplier, union or regulatory body.”
My standards are my own. There are aggressive – combative – people out there. Got tested once upon a time too for the type of personality I have – I don’t fit into a category. Isn’t that something. I thought so. Well, lets continue….
“Many of us sense we’re losing ground economically and socially. The safety net is unraveling. Hence, anxiety and unease are skyrocketing,” she said.
Darln’s — create your own safety net — with out being a dick or dicket. The choice is very simple to make. If you think or agree that “the safety net is unraveling” you haven’t seen nothing yet. Everything around you (see my write up about cause and effect) works together — all of it. Not just another person — but everything. Is your environment (literally the environment) around you healthy? <–as an example.
Finally…
“Somebody didn’t just come to work one day and shoot somebody,” Spector said. “There’s probably been a pattern of less extreme behaviors leading up to it.”
Leading behaviors. Leading. Everyone is caught up in their daily lives – they do not pay attention. I remember hearing once about how the Israelis watch for certain things. I.E. if someone is walking around in a trench coat in 100 degree weather. Umm.. maybe an issue. Years ago on some news broadcast. Why does no one look out for anyone — anymore? Do not try to control — never, never, never. Say things like, “may I make a suggestion”. ”I feel…” — Keep up the non-confrontational dialogue. True – you may not be “deir mama” — but you are showing a little interest and that my friends goes a hell of a long way. Pay attention. If you do not like what is happening — change it — with HARM TO NONE. Quit looking for someone to blame.
